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5 major reasons you should never beg someone to love you

by Daniel Nkado



No matter how tough we think we are, once in a while we run into someone that breaks us.

At first it might all feel intriguingly strange as you watch yourself go (read one of my books 'Entangled' to understand what I mean) till you eventually realize you have been swimming in lone waters.


While you were engulfed in the magic of attraction, you must have missed a very crucial part -- the other party isn't feeling the same way.

Often, the major reason people resort to begging to be loved is when one realizes the amount of emotional investment they have so far spent, so far gone.

Still, the one thing worse than someone not loving you back is your pleading for the person to stay.

Here are top 5 reasons you MUST never beg someone to stay in your life:

1. They are never going to

First thing you must know about begging someone to love you is that it never works. If they are any nice at all, the most you'd get is their pity. No one deserves that...you least of all.


You see, love is largely an involuntary emotion. Unlike a decision to eat, walk or run, the heart does not seek your opinion before it opens up for a person. You see now why your begging, kneeling, texting, and all sorts, are all entirely pointless.

2. It extends the time you need to regain yourself

Once you've realized someone does not love you, the best thing to do is to move on. It might not be easy at the beginning, but eventually you'd come to that victorious state of not caring anymore. Sticking around and begging for a love that is not forthcoming not only wastes your time but also the energy you could have channeled into more productive things.

3. It prevents you from meeting the right people

There is that patience that comes with true love. You might even find yourself making excuses for the person (something you must never do!) -- listing out all the possible reasons why the person is not capable of loving you at the moment and consoling yourself with them.


But no matter how strongly patient your love for them is causing you to be, you must realize that when it comes to love, the heart is prone to making lots of mistakes. Allow your head to take control this time and get yourself back on track.

4. It demeans you

Loving someone is never something you should regret. To love means you are just an amazing person and if the person didn't return your love, the loss is entirely theirs and not yours. They've only missed out on the abundance of charm that flows within you, so instead of ever resorting to beg, gather your je ne sais quoi and repackage it well.


The right person is closer to you than you think!

5. They can use it against you

Sometimes our hearts opens up for the wrong person. Now that is bad enough on its own -- you adding a bunch of self-depreciating text messages, calls or actions to the mix is uncalled-for. Don't give anybody the easy satisfaction of creating fun off of your feelings.


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Daniel Nkado is a Nigerian writer and the founder of DNBStories.com. Get some of his books on DNB StoreOkadaBooks or BamBooks!

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